Impotence is defined as the inability to sustain a satisfactory erection to perform intercourse and ejaculation. Although impotence is common, the cause is rarely pathological. See also PENILE DISORDERS.
Every man will experience impotence at some time or another in his life. An erection is a very fragile phenomenon. When impotence occurs, it should never be dramatized or ridiculed. On the contrary, simply ascertain what situation rendered you psychologically impotent or powerless prior to the sexual impotence.
Chronic impotence experienced with the same sexual partner is usually an indication that you have changed your perception of the partner or of the relationship. Either you feel you don't want to defile her, or perhaps the relationship has become platonic and you see her more as a maternal figure or as a friend. Perhaps you are subconsciously refusing to satisfy her and want to deprive her of pleasure.
If you are experiencing sexual impotence, it is an indication that you are feeling powerless in some other area of your life. Obviously, this is an unhealthy attitude that carries over into your physical life. Determine whether there is a specific situation in another area of your life causing this feeling of powerlessness and if so, put it in perspective. Let others solve their own problems and don't let these issues preoccupy you.
If you are experiencing impotence because of a previous negative sexual experience, distance yourself from that and understand that it is your belief system that is the obstacle to your satisfaction. Remember: you are what you think you are.
If you are subconsciously using your sexual impotence to deprive your partner, keep in mind that you are also depriving yourself and blocking a healthy creative energy. The destructive attitude you are exhibiting will only feed your ego, not your relationship.
If you are experiencing sexual impotence because you see your partner more as a mother figure, you are having a mother/father relationship. This happens when each partner is trying to have power over the other. This type of relationship is very unhealthy. Your sexual impotence is telling you to get back in touch with your internal strength and stop believing that you are powerful only when you have power over the opposite sex.