Are you a winner or a victim?

Did you know each of us, without exception, is playing the victim? The answer is yes, but at different levels. What does it mean to play the victim and why use the term play? We usually think of playing in terms of a game; a game is an activity where there is a winner and a loser. In this case, when we consider ourselves the victim of something or somebody, we consider ourselves losers. Thus, we give all our power to the situation or person which we acknowledge as the winner.

In which parts of your life do you consider yourself a loser? To help you answer that question, listen to your words and thoughts when you complain about something, or when you lack something. Is it with your health, education, money, time, activities, relations, etc?

If you don't see yourself as being a victim in any of the examples mentioned above, I suggest you ask your friends or colleagues to help you notice when you're complaining. A very efficient method is to allow them to say Poor You each time you complain. This helped me a lot personally. But, beware! It's not easy to hear because the ego doesn't like it!

When you discover the victim in you, know that this situation keeps on happening in your life only because you're giving it your power. When you are playing the victim and seeing yourself as the loser, what is it you really want FOR YOURSELF in that situation. Then, take the time to plan what you can do to get what you want. You'll be surprised to realize that by re-establishing contact with your power to create the situation you want, you will regain the energy that the "winner" had taken away from you.

Lise Bourbeau