For example, take
someone who always has a lot of energy. He doesn't
take time to ask himself why he has all this energy
- he takes it for granted. He can sometimes notice that
others have less energy, but this still doesn't help him
know why he has so much of it. Life goes on like this
and he gives it no further thought.
Then one day, his energy
begins to wane, and several months later he
realises that he finds it hard to get through the
day. With his energy drained, he has more and more
difficulty putting one foot in front of the other.
Soon he has lost all desire to do anything at
all.
He ends up asking
questions like these: What's happening to me? Why am I
so sapped at the end of a normal work day? I am not what
I used to be! If he believes that this lack of energy is
due, for example, to the new, more
demanding boss, he will never find the answer.
There are unfortunately too many people who always find
an external cause for their problems.
On the other hand,
the moment he decides that he wants to discover the
physical, emotional and mental causes of this problem,
he will be on the right track. Answers can come from
someone who helps him out or from something he hears "by
chance", or from a book, a piece of music,
etc.
He can also ask himself
questions to uncover the emotional and mental causes for
his low energy, such as "What does this lack of energy
prevent me from having or doing?" (it must be something
that is dear to him). It can be "going out in the
evenings" or "working with more joy and intensity" or
"being happy with my family when I
come home from work". Whatever his answer, he must
then ask himself "What am I afraid of if my desire
becomes reality?" He will then unearth a fear that has
always resided in him, but of which he was unconscious.
There is always a fear which lurks behind every
unfulfilled desire.
Therefore, thanks to his
lack of energy, he has just discovered a fear that has
influenced him for a long time without his being
conscious of it. This is true for all problems, whether
physical, emotional or mental. We attract problems
to us to help us understand life lessons that
we are not able to recognise any other
way.
The next step is to
accept that he is only human, and has fears that need to
be tamed. We have all them. We all have the same goal:
to become aware of those things living in
us that prevent us from having a life filled
with happiness, harmony and joie de
vivre.
Here is the good news:
The more we become aware of the fears that attract our
so-called "negative" experiences, the more we are
capable of preventing other such experiences -
experiences that may that may prove even more
tragic.
With
love,
you learn much more from your so-called
negative experiences than from those that seem positive
to you? This statement does not seem very encouraging,
but it is! 
