Did you know that there is a big difference between a resolution and a decision? At the beginning of a New Year, we are strongly encouraged to make resolutions, and often do so. Did you notice, however, that those good resolutions do not last long? In fact, very few of us can say we held on to our resolutions all year long. Why is that? Because our resolutions are often based on fear. A resolution based on fear rarely comes from the heart because it's not based on the love you have for yourself.
Take the time to feel the difference between saying "I decide that this New Year, I will do what it takes to make my life simpler and I will be more tolerant with myself and others" and saying "My New Year's resolution is to do what it takes to make my life simpler and be more tolerant with myself and others."
In the resolution, we understand "I WOULD LIKE to... and HOPE that I achieve it," while in a decision, we feel more force behind what we want. We claim it. A resolution originates more from our desires while a decision comes from our will.
I suggest, therefore, you write down all that you want for this year. Next, discover what motivates these desires. Is it fear of something or someone? If it is, you will find that you may follow your resolution for a few weeks or months then you will probably lose control.
What motivates you must come from the heart. That implies that you thought about the pleasant consequences for yourself when achieving your goal. It's based on the love you have for yourself and not on a desire to be loved by another.
To make sure that your New Year's decision is not just another resolution, find realistic ways to achieve your goal. You may want to place the paper on which you noted your decisions in an envelope and peek at it the first of every month to help you become aware of your progress. On the same paper, take the time to write all the improvements in your life during the preceding month, thanks to your decisions. Too many of us notice only what hasn't been done, forgetting to congratulate ourselves for what we accomplished.
Lise Bourbeau
